A Tale of Two Chicas

The List of Greats January 21, 2012

The ‘List of Greats’ is a list of men I’ve dated that have made a great impact on my life. It’s not a long list either. My college boyfriend was the only man on the list. Yes, he was the only one on the list until today.

Today, I can safely say that my man (whom we will now refer to as ‘my BFF’ for the purpose of this blog) has made the ‘List of Greats.’ I adore him. We established a genuine friendship long before we ever started dating. That’s why he’s my BFF. I genuinely considered him a good friend. Heck, he still is my good friend. When I dropped everything in Pittsburgh to leave for Chicago, he showed great concern for me when, let’s be honest here, he didn’t have to. Seriously. It wasn’t his obligation. He did it out of the goodness of his heart and because he was really worried about me.

My BFF has been the first good guy that I’ve dated since I broke up with my college boyfriend years ago. The dudes in between are honestly nothing but irrelevant and faded memories. They have faded from my thoughts and heart mainly because I knew I deserved to be treated better. I wasn’t asking to be treated like a princess. I was just asking for a little respect, consideration and affection.

I’ve tried to fix those relationships. I even tried “fixing” myself. In the end, I was always left emotionally unsatisfied and blaming myself for shit I shouldn’t have been blaming myself for in the first place. Dude after dude and I was left feeling more and more inadequate.

Our friendship was always innocent, simple and true. I guess we got closer towards the end of last summer. Yeah, he was hot and a nice guy on top of that. But, the thought of dating him never popped in my mind. Things just fell on our laps and, before you know it, we were inseparable.

I guess the fact that we already established a relationship as friends worked in our favor. I think it worked more in my favor because he’s shown undying kindness to me. Undying kindness to the point where I actually do feel like a princess.

He makes me feel like I deserve it too. I begged him that, no matter what happens, to please never make me feel inadequate. I will never forget what he told me. He said, “I want you to promise me something. I want you to promise to know and realize your worth. Don’t let the past or even me to determine your worth. I know your worth. But know that you’re smart, beautiful and funny.”

My college boyfriend was a good man. We lasted for 4 years. I just couldn’t give him the serious relationship he wanted. It was overwhelming me. It was a great relationship with a great man. However, people change. I changed. And, my relationship with my college boyfriend was fading away. Our time together ran its course.

I went through various changes and various men over the years. Through all of that, I’ve never forgotten my college boyfriend. That’s what makes him great. He’s forever engraved in me.

Now, I’m dating my friend. A great man who showers me with kisses and constantly tells me, “You’re gorgeous.” A great man that finds my stories heart warming and funny. A great man who values his relationships with his family and friends. A great man who will make me a better person no matter if our relationship flourishes or gently fades through time. That, my friends, deserves a spot on the ‘List of Greats.’


Life plan October 27, 2011

Filed under: Pittsburgh Chica — Sonia @ 12:30 pm
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Since I graduated with my bachelor’s in journalism in 2008 and never got that tv news reporter gig I always wanted, I’ve been kind of a lost soul. I didn’t have a Plan B and had no idea what I wanted to do with my life. It was literally a, “Shit…now what?,” kind of thing. Even now, in grad school, I still want to do like 15 million different things. I think I’m starting to figure every thing out though. Slowly but surely. In fact, the more I think about it, the more I’m serious about it to the point where I’m making a checklist and timeline. My friends, below is just a rough draft of my Life Plan.

    Sonia’s Life Plan

•After not only feeling but being sheltered by my family, I want to live in different places, experience life and “see what’s out there.” Don’t get me wrong. I love my family. In Mexican culture, family is important. We stick together. We stay together. I’m very traditional when it comes to family. However, I felt so sheltered from the world. My parents had a heart attack when I moved out of the house at 21. I was literally 15 mins. away but it was still a huge deal. They died when I moved to Pittsburgh. I love, love, love my family but cut the damn umbilical cord. I plan to leave Pittsburgh once I finish school but, I realized I don’t want to move back to Chicago just yet. I plan live in the following places, each for a year (I’m still iffy on the order) and my parents are just going to have to deal with it:

-Seattle, WA
-Bend, OR
-Austin, TX
-Minneapolis, MN
-Montana (Don’t know where yet)
-Denver, CO

•Both my legal business/law and public relations for non-profits classes are inspiring me. With all the current law/legal issues I’m learning about and all the good I’m learning about non-profits, I really feel like I want to give my skills to organizations in need. Something that’s really intriguing me are opportunities in grant writing and reviewing grant proposals. Honestly, I don’t know where to start. I’ve never had experience in grant writing but that’s why I’m in school. I don’t know how to get my foot in the grant writing door but I’ll figure it out.

•When I’m done with the two bullet points above, I guess I’ll get married and pop out kids. Even though I’m not really into the idea of marriage & kids, I do need a daughter to pass down my mom’s ring.


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A conversation between two Chicagoans living in Pittsburgh October 17, 2011

Filed under: Pittsburgh Chica — Sonia @ 12:10 pm
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Random Chicago dude (RCD): “What’s that on your wrist?”

Me: “A tattoo.”

RCD: “But what is it of?”

Me: “It’s the Sears Tower.”

RCD: “You’re from Chicago?”

Me: “Yeah.”

RCD: “Me too, born and raised.”

Me: “Oh yeah? What are you doing here?”

RCD: “Man, I don’t know man…”

Me: “No worries. I tell myself that all the time – every day. No joke.”


Over my dead body complicatedness September 15, 2011

I got a letter from the Illinois Environmental Protection Agency saying that I must have my vehicle tested for emissions before the December 31st deadline. Now, the easy way would be to transfer my vehicle over to Pennsylvania. In order to do that, I would also have to change my residency.

Um, no. That is not happening. Over my freaking dead rotting body.

So instead I have to fly my dad in (because he’s terrified of me driving alone for a long amount of time and distance and because he freaking has trouble cutting off the damn umbilical cord), drive with him to Chicago, drive back with him to Pittsburgh and finally drop him back off the airport for his flight back to Chicago. All this before December 31st.

Like I said, over my damn dead forsaken body. Chicagoan for life, ese.


There IS some humanity left in Pittsburgh September 11, 2011

This afternoon I headed to the Round Corner Cantina because I had a taste for their bomb tortas. Being that today is the Bears home opener, I decided to rock my Bears tee. So I was chilling, eating my torta, watching the Ravens open a can on the Steelers and constantly checking my phone getting my Bears update. The owner of Round Corner walks up to me and says something.

“What was that?” I asked.

“We can put the Bears game on for you,” he said.

I wanted to cry. You kind, kind man. Being the sweet-fucking-heart that I am, I thanked him but declined the offer because I didn’t want to inconvenience the other customers. I probably should have made him change it though. I would’ve been doing everyone a favor because the Steelers are getting a good whooping right now. Anyways, moral of the story is that I officially love that man.


Scary crazy people September 5, 2011

Filed under: Pittsburgh Chica — Sonia @ 9:07 pm
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So there’s this crazy dude wandering around the airport screaming like a damn fool on his phone.

“…Because I’ve been sitting in a hotel in goddamn Pittsburgh!!!”

Look, dude, Pittsburgh pisses me off too but cut it out. You’re scaring the shit out of everyone. Thanks!